Where the magic happens

When a relationship is hurting, it’s never about the arguments on the surface.​  Underneath the conflict, unspoken longings, old wounds, protective patterns, and moments of disconnection exist that, over time, gradually create distance between two people who once felt so close and loving.

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A Gottman couples intensives offer a dedicated space over a few days to gently slow things down, understand what is really happening beneath the surface, and begin the process of healing — both individually and together.  It's from that healing that reconnection suddenly becomes possible.

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Why an intensive?

Many couples come to this work feeling exhausted. You may have had the same conversations over and over, feeling unheard, misunderstood, or alone in the relationship. You may still love each other deeply, but feel unsure how to find your way back.  You may even be considering moving separation or divorce.

Many couples struggle to find the time for regular sessions due to family and work commitments.   Or find that even one session a week does not leave enough time for the deeper healing conversations to take place.

An intensive creates the space to:

• move beyond surface-level conflict into deeper understanding

• explore the emotional wounds and protective parts shaping your dynamic

• slow down conversations so they can be heard and felt differently

• rebuild a sense of emotional safety and connection

• begin shifting patterns that have felt stuck for a long time

• repair and heal past hurts that are resurfacing consciously or unconsciously again and again

This is about creating conditions where real healing can happen, where connection starts to reemerge,

and where lasting changes take place

My Approach

​When I work with a couple, the relationship becomes my client.  And this means that my commitment to both of you is to be upfront and honest with both of you about my perspective, what I am observing, and what my training and experience tells me is the best information for your relationship.  After all, whatever it is that you are doing now isn't working, so now is the time to take a risk, try something different, and see what happens!​

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As one of the few therapists in the county to offer the powerful combination of attachment-informed EMDR and IFS parts work, and the huge evidence base of the incomparable Gottman Method, I am uniquely situated to offer you a very special experience - and one that will help you make sense of the deeper emotional landscape beneath your current problematic interactions.

Because what looks like anger, withdrawal, or defensiveness on the surface is actually a protective response — shaped by past experiences, attachment wounds, and unmet needs.  And it is when we begin to understand these parts of ourselves, and those of our partner, with compassion, that something can shift and the magic starts to happen. Suddenly, couples start to see each other differently; defences soften, conversations become less reactive and more real.  And it is from here that we begin to rebuild trust, safety, and emotional connection in a way that feels genuine and sustainable.

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Due to the nature of an intensive, we have time to:

• understand the cycle you are caught up in together

• explore the deeper emotions and needs underneath that cycle

• gently work with the parts of each of you that feel hurt, protective, or overwhelmed

• support more open, attuned communication

• create new experiences of being seen, heard, and responded to differently

• begin restoring a sense of closeness and connection

This work is both incredibly powerful and beautifully tender

Many couples find themselves having conversations they have long avoided — but in a way that feels safer, more supported, and more meaningful than before.  And that heal old wounds, clearing the way forward for a new improved way of interacting and being together.  And for the old feelings of love, fondness and joy to return.

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So, how does it work?

I offer two options – either a 2- or 3-day deep dive into your relationship challenges.

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2-Day Couples Intensive

Investment: $5,000

A focused and powerful space to begin understanding your dynamic and creating meaningful shifts. This option is well suited for couples wanting to reconnect and move out of stuck patterns.

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3-Day Couples Intensive

Investment: $7,500

A space for couples needing more time to work through complex patterns, rebuild trust, or gently process more significant hurt. This allows for a more spacious, layered healing process.

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What's included:

• 15-minute discovery call

• Two or three full therapeutic days (6 hours)

• Comprehensive Gottman Relationship Checkup assessment

• Integrative work throughout the intensive, drawing on:

  • Gottman Method

  • Trauma-informed attachment work

  • EMDR and EMDR resourcing

  • IFS (parts work)

  • Somatic grounding and regulation

• A follow-up session to support integration (must be within a month of intensive)

• A comprehensive folder of theory, exercises and interventions to take home and keep

• A selection of snacks, teas and water will be provided (information about local cafes for lunch can also be provided

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Is an intensive right for you?

Couples intensives are a significant investment — both financially and emotionally.  This is a premium, in-depth therapeutic offering designed to create meaningful movement in a short period of time. For many couples, the value lies not only in the time spent together, but in the depth of healing and reconnection that becomes possible through this focused work that is simply not possible in weekly sessions.  This concentrated work creates meaningful shifts that would otherwise take months or sometimes even years to reach.

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If you feel drawn to this way of working, you are warmly invited to book a 15-minute discovery call to explore

whether a couples intensive is the right next step for you.

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